Long Distance Relationships

*Posted later but typed much earlier*

I am one of a close crew of 9. Never before in our history have there been so many of us in LDRs. Or been in LDRs. When it comes to LDR experiences, whether or not we are still together, as in some cases those mentioned below are no longer together, the bunch of us have quite of it to boot.

Lets see.

One HK gf.
One Sporean gf.
One Brunei gf
One Melb gf.
One UK gf.
One Aus gf.
One in Sg but a M'sian gf.

That is 7 of us currently in LDRs!!! Out of 9. And of the remaining 2, 1 is unattached. Thats a strike rate of 90 over %.

LDRs are not easy. Most LDRs fail. You need a few key elements to sustain it.

1) Genuine desire to want it to work, hence willing to do what it takes, including make the sacrifices.
2) Equal amount of desire on both parties.
3) Maturity.

If LDRs fail, it usually is because of either of these 3. Some people say otherwise like oh but I need someone who is physically there, or I whatever. Blah blah. As far as I am concerned, if you wanted that person enough, you'd have thought it worth it to do whatever it takes. Anything else means you don't love him/her enough to do what it takes, bottom line, end of story.

A few of us have been/are in LDRs. And we do share some stories. Yet now they go and get involved. In LDRs, a few things must be very clearly discussed. What is the end game? Where is their ultimate destination? If both parties can agree on 1 place, i.e. 1 of them has to relocate, then all fair and good. But if neither can see themselves uprooting, then obviously its a dead end street, so don't wade into it. Tough, tough.

And the party who doesnt uproot might forever feel guilt or whatever that the other party is making that kind of move. It really requires some degree of fortitude. And if one chooses to walk away, one always thinks, did I just walk from my One?