The economics of love

There is such a thing called love.
There is also such a thing called marriage.
In days of yore, if you had just love, it would equal marriage.

E = mc2
Love = Marriage

These 2, increasingly in today's world, are becoming 2 mutually exclusive phenomenons. Love no longer equals marriage. The equation has been rewritten as such:

From:

Heart (Emotion, i.e. love) = Marriage

To:

1. Emotion, i.e. love (Heart) + Realism (Head) = Happy Marriage
2. Realism (Head) = Marriage
3. Emotion, i.e. love (Heart) only = Pain, tears, breakup.

It used to be, if you felt extreme fondness for another person, thats all you needed, you would marry him, and you'd live happily ever after.

Modern society has changed, such that if you felt extreme fondness for the other person, it is not enough. If the person is financially stable and successful, then, cool, lets get married. Otherwise, sayonara, it's been a nice ride, good luck. Girls pick guys to marry based on:

1. Heart (emotion)
2. Head (realism)

Just pure love itself only will no longer do the trick. He has to make enough money. So, in choosing a guy, she cannot JUST love him; she also has to assess him in terms of his financial status (as a farmer would assess the milk producing quality of a cow). If he shows potential and or has already has some measure of success, THEN, he would qualify. And she would consider him majorly. Otherwise, he doesnt merit her time.

Now when this happens, how would you feel if you were the guy?

OK this girl chooses me. Well I'm glad she chooses me because she has some special emotions for me. But thats not the sole reason she chooses me. Its also because I bring home a lot of dough. Well. Then if I don't bring home a lot of dough? What if I told her I am going to quit this job and go and start up a band, where I probably will not make it, and along the way earn RM1500 a month max. Will she still stay? Prolly not.

This would make the guy feel like crap wouldnt he?

I think that (and I dont blame modern women for this, not all of it anyway) society and the cost of living and watnot nowdays is such that it cheapens and totally blemishes the sanctity of love. Once you bring realism and practicality into the picture, you cannot totally say you are marrying for and out of love anymore.

If I were the guy I would want the girl to choose me 100% based on her heart. Anything else, involving an assessment of my economic capabilities would make me doubt her love, taint the pureness and wholesomeness and innocence of our love, and cast doubts as to her stickaroundness if I suddenly became monetarily poor.

To be fair, some guys prolly do the same regarding girls, but its mainly based on her physical attractiveness - which girls do too.

I would guess that girls want their guys to choose them because they love them. A heart decision. And not just because they want to fuck them. Cos that'd make the girl feel cheap and be derogatory, especially, if he dumped her in the end.

I would want my girl to choose me 100% based on because she loves me, a 100% heart decision. It would not feel nice to know that she chose me also because she is being realistic blah blah. Because, realisticness makes everyone expendable.

However, I guess the bottom line is that such is the way the world works, I mights well get in line and figure out how to beat instead of avoid the system.

Its so sad...all I want is to choose a girl 100% based only on the fact that I love her, and nothing else, and that she would also choose me 100% based only on the fact she loves me. All I want is for some chocolate biscuits, a Fender stratocaster and...(from Stranger than Fiction).