Unmelodic Musings

Time and relationships are so transient in nature. Given time, time and more time, most relationships will mean differently to us as their context in our current lives change. Time moves fast. You'd be trundling along in your life and then hit a date where you remember exactly what you were doing this date 1 year ago, and you realize, heck, it's been a year!

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Rships, rships rships around me everywhere. New ones. People not fully aware of this great journey and commitment they are about to embark on. Current ones. And....recently over ones. It's sad how distance, time, lack of physical closeness, lack of thorough understanding of the other party, being too emotionally caught up in affairs of their own daily lives to pay attn to their other party etc can erode even the best rships. But it is understandable.

It's not the emotional, heavy, psycho, drama laden breakups that are bad. With this kind, you know that a lot of emo
went into it, and theres alwiz a chance of one party being too brash, and when things boil over, they might retract,
the status quo might change. The worst are the quiet, calm, sad, rational, deliberate ones. These ones have been
carefully considered, thought out and weighed. Such decisions are unlikely to be reversed. HOPE is gone.

Flames to dust. Lovers to friends. Why do all good things come to an end.

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Love. Is it possible to love 2 people, not simultaneously, in 1 lifetime? Isn't love, by virtue of its essence, a once in a lifetime thing? That depends I guess on our definition of love. When one is old and is hooking up with a second
partner, that'd be companionship, not love. Right? Love.. it is a passionate, all encompassing, once in a lifetime,
truly truly touch your soul kind of thing, romance filled, willing to sacrifice for the other party, etc. How can one declare that they love someone, and some time later, declare to someone else they love them? Maybe it is possible but I am not really sure how so, for me. Once in a lifetime. Unless you think you're in love now...and then you meet someone else and things are even better and you go..hey that wasnt love.. THIS is...

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How many ppl remain in rships because they have not the strength nor courage to travel the road of life alone? And 
are not fully 100% happy in their rship but just accommodate accommodate bend make do etc? Is the partner, who
obviously then isn't loving/considerate/alert enough to improve things still bloody worth it? I used to think such ppl are weak. Then a friend told me but no she think such ppl are strong. After all it takes greater strength to put up or do
things that don't fully make you happy compared to things that make you happy. Well thats true. But after mulling
over this...I've come to the conclusion that yes maybe the strength part is correct. But strength has no relevance to
this. The point is: Why go on?

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