The Bible

Was reading the Bible last night and this morning.

Three things jumped out at me.

1) Yearn for the type of marriage described in Peter . Want to be the type of husband who:

- give honor to your wives
- treat her with understanding as you live together
- my equal partner in this life
- must treat her as I should and prayers will be heard

So hence the woman I have must be someone who makes me want to be this type of husband, like Joanne does. I can't love someone just because she is such such such, so luckily, the woman that I have found and love, really is such such and such. Sometimes, she makes me feel that she is more than worthy of me, and where a less mature Alex would have said ok hence we should break up so you can find someone more worthy of you, a more mature Alex would say ok, well, now, what must I start doing, stop doing, and continue doing, to make us worthy of each other.

2) However, something else jumped out at me, from 1 Corinthians.

"Yes it is good to live a celibrate life. But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband. The husband should not deprive his wife of sexual intimacy, which is her right as a married woman, nor should the wife deprive her husband. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband also gives authority over his body to his wife. So do not deprive each other of sexual relations."

Thats very agreeable with me. I want one woman and I want me to be her only man. And once we are married, we shall go at it like rabbits. Physical intimacy with one is desirable only if the other is someone we have real and strong feelings for, and if that someone is physically attractive to a certain extent. That is the irrefutable reality and truth. So if a man allows his body to become fat, balding, potbellied, etc, OR a woman allows herself to look likewise, and they want to go at it, but they just aren't attractive that way to their spouse, so the spouse is not up for it though the feelings are still there, hence they are depriving the spouse.

Example. John and Jane are married. John wants to get intimate with Jane, but he is fat white pot bellied balding has bad body odour etc. So Jane, though not repulsed because she loves her husband but is just not attracted to him and can't get herself into the same physical and emotional state, by not indulging in him, is depriving him. But how can we blame Jane? So, from this, the conclusion is that the onus is on each man and woman to ensure that he or she retains some semblance of decent aesthetical appearance.

3) If a Christian man has a wife who is an unbeliever and she is willing to continue living with him, he must not leave her. And if a Christian woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he is willing to continue living with her, she must not leave him. For the Christian wife brings holiness to her marriage, and likewise. But if the husband or wife is not a Christian and insists on leaving, let them go. You wives must remember that your husbands might be converted because of you, and likewise.

That was from 1 Corinthians as well. OK. Recently, encountering cases where 1 might be Christian and the other not. So the Christian party has trouble accepting a non Christian spouse, but yet their feelings of love and attachment for the other person is strong. So they are quite in conflict and drama with their emotions. I guess this verse does help a bit. However, I remember reading elsewhere that there should not be unequal yoke in a marriage. Which in this case WOULD be an unequal yoke. So this is something that I have not quite figured out.

Still thinking.