Disappointment

It is a big disappointment when people who mean a lot to you behave in a way that makes you disappointed. It could be in any arena.

Perhaps your boyfriend didn’t behave in a way you would have expected or preferred him to behave. Maybe you thought in a given scenario, he would be discerning enough not to be impressed with stuff like that, and you thought he possessed the character not to need to disguise it. That he was mature enough to just be himself. However, it is understandable if he is not, because perhaps he is more socially aware of others’ feelings and prefers to be polite and mask his true feelings rather than risk coming across as crude and uncivilized (like me). He is just being socially polite etc.

Or, perhaps, you made an effort to do something for your scholars (best friends), took a bit of effort to ensure they had a nice night out, when you could easily have chosen to do nothing, and all you keep getting are negative and immature comments. You do not need recognition nor are you looking for it, but at least you want them to appreciate the moment and not be so tunnel vision that they fail to see the big picture and realize what a special moment that was. Instead of focussing on the journey, and the experience of being together undertaking that journey, they just criticized, which is infinitely easier than taking the effort to plan something better.

Or perhaps you always thought the world of someone, and acted (you thought) in ways that reflected that statement, and then you realized that that someone, who although made similar statements, actually behaved differently inside and was judging you in ways you never realized. That while you wholeheartedly trusted someone and invested in the relationship, that that person was holding all sorts of reservations all along. I guess you feel a little silly and naïve.