Of spinsters and bachelorettes

Now, after some years of observations, conducting a few unscientific surveys, and collecting anecdotal evidence, I have come to the regrettable deduction and hence conclusion as follows:

1) There are a lot of above mid twenties single girls out there, many of whom have either never been in a rship, been in a serious rship, or held down any rship for more than a few months. These last categories are the target subjects of this post. For those of you single and above mid twenties readers, some of whom have been very loyal, you know who you are (I know, I keep track), I just want to say that this post DOES NOT apply to you; you have exhibited much more class, maturity, selflessness etc to warrant the negative remarks I am about to spew about some of your brethren. Hence, one more time: this isn't a negative tirade about you.

2) Upon closer inspection and analysis of their characters, I have come to realize that there are some commonalities shared across the spectrum by our heroines. And trust me, these personality traits are more ugly than pretty. In fact, some are downright disgusting. Elaborations later.

3) There are far more unaesthetically pleasing girls with good attitudes who are happily attached compared to the higher numbers of aesthetically pleasing but character turn offs who are single.

4) Hence the greatest cause for girls who either have never been in a serious rship, never been IN a rship, or never successfully held down a decent rship for more than a few months are their characters and personalities. More so than the long held opinion that when it comes to guys' criteria, its 100% looks.

Well, why do I say so?

Because certain character flaws are way too gross to overlook. When I look at spinsters who have never experienced a true, loving, long term, serious stable rship, I notice a few patterns emerging.

1. Selfishness. Extremely self centred to the point of turn off. Incapable of seeing anything except their own self interests, and that desire to procure what is best for themselves first and foremost shines through like a beacon in certain situations. It is hard to ascertain what came first; singlehood and hence the need to look after oneself, or selfishness and hence singlehood. One thing is for sure: the vicious cycle has to change, else, nothing will change.

2. Idealistic expectations. These types want the best guy that can be created. They are easily impressed by riches, and want a guy who is rich handsome tall charming intelligent kind nice sexy well built funny etc etc the list goes on get the point yet? No1 is good enough.

3. Greed and laziness. They want the best, the most, etc, and refuse to settle for anything less than that no matter how perfect this dude might be. And the worst part is they want something but refuse to put in effort to earn it. Point being, if you want the perfect guy created by God, you have to try to improve yourself to be somewhat desirable by such a man; it is absolutely greedy selfish and lazy to want the best but allow your body and character to rot to high heaven. Always want the most for the least, slightly kiasu, looking for the best deal for themselves.

4. Fathers who are good material providers. Self explanatory. Any possible deductions derivable, feel free to explore the idea further.

5. Hard unforgiving women. Easy to take offence, and easy to condemn and criticize, hardly ever seeing the good in others, quick to snap, judge, hard to forgive people. Critical and judging. Highly able to rationalize all unreasonable self behavior to other people's fault. Always on the lookout to defend self and prevent self from getting hurt.

6. Certain masculine characteristics which may or may not include physical features.

7. A bad temper. Easy to fly into a rage, even at long time friends and when in anger, even over small things, tend to forget the closeness of friendships and what it means, and can just use extremely harsh, unnecessary and cruel words before trying to understand the friend's point of view. Just scold and curse and swear first (if at all there is a 'second'). Extremely disgusting.

Those are the few I have enough awakeness to think of right now. Time for bed!

Again I stress, to some of, especially Winkris, this post is in no way about you. PEACE!