Regrets

Sometimes we reallly regret what we did, but what was done might be unforgivable and even if forgivable, not forgettable, and will forever be a thorn in our spouse's side, and then we wont be enjoying the kind of rship both should have and want. Regrets...

Did you hear about the HK celebrity scandal? Where EC went out with all these girls (not in one night of course) and then took photos of himself with each girl in all sorts of compromising positions. And then he got his computer serviced, and apparently, someone got hold of those photos and is now slowly releasing it to the press. So EC had to come out and apologize. And the girls, who I shall not name, had to initially deny it was them and then when it became clear that it WAS them, later on had to admit it was indeed them and had to apologize.

As a result of this, one of the girls, BBC, had her upcoming wedding called off by the fiance’s family, and another girl, CC, has so incensed her husband (another famous HK celebrity) so bad that he reportedly threw his wedding ring away in public and she fell on her knees to beg him back.

Lets examine this on a superficial level shall we. But first lets all acknowledge how dumb EC had been. Ok, now that’s out of the way.

I have been hearing 2 sides of the argument. Conducted a mini survey of sample size less than 10. From that unrepresentative sample, generally people fall into 2 camps.

1- The guys should not blame the girl and dump them because that happened in the past. They are theirs now, so if they didn’t cheat after they got together, then what happened prior should not be an issue. What he is now and where he is trying to go is more important.

2- Cannot. The fact that she has that personality/characteristic of sleeping around so much prior and has the personality that allows him to take all these photos of them is unacceptable and the fact that now the whole world has those photos of your spouse with another in those scenes is too much of an embarrassment. And, unspoken but it is there, is the fact that you will always be thinking whether she is still thinking of those encounters and whether you are being compared to her previous lovers.

Point #1 is true that yes she didn’t cheat on him after they got together, and yes, what happened remains in the past, BUT, point #2 in my opinion reins stronger. I find it harder to accept what is said in point #2 than point #1. this might be one of the only times that men think with their emotions and not with their heads.

So, whats your stand?