Revelations

It is good that Kenny is a Christian, and as I travel down this road, he is there to constantly be a companion. Granted, not a very inspiring or good role model, but a companion is nonetheless a companion, and to have a fellow scholar being that companion helps immeasurably. He sends me messages that are passages from the Bible regularly that he receives from someone else.

I've always thought people can seldom become strong, convicted Christians rooted in deep faith and walk around testifying to His miracles unless they themselves have personally experienced His hand on them. Even for strong convicted Christians to take the next step, many require more convincing, a personal testimony to God's hand in their life. But I was recently in acquaintance with this scientific economist man who gave a very convincing service that touched on the fact that you cannot wait; you can never be ready; there is never a better time. You have to take that initiative, you have to make that first move, that next step, and really truly have faith and believe in Him that if you decide to make that leap, He will be there to hold your hand and to guide you, never to let you fall, and letting His hand resonate throughout what you doubt.

After I decided that I would truly seek Him out, and to accept Him in my life, and to submit myself totally, to believe that I have been arrogant and proud, to invite and beseech Him to enter my life and to entrust my life to His management, I have experienced slight philosophical changes in various aspects of life. Recently, times have been rather tumultuous. Lots of sorrowful ups and downs, and I have been praying, praying hard that the silver lining reveal itself soon, that He shows me the light and what the right direction is.

And this brings me to that story of the Christian on the rooftop during some floods, who rejected 3 offers of rescue, claiming that God would save him, and then in the end drowning. And when he questioned why God did not save him, God answered that he sent 3 rescue teams, each of whom the man rejected. Moral: God works in mysterious ways. His intentions and methods are not immediately obvious, but we need to have faith in him. We need to have faith in Him. We should not be looking for obvious signs. Sometimes, He is guiding us, but not in obvious ways, and if we look for obvious ways, we might miss His real signs. There is another story of a man who got lost coming down from a mountain, when the mist settled on the mountains, and he clung to the rope, refusing to let go. Then he prayed to God to save him, and he heard God's voice telling him repeatedly to let go of the rope. He just could not do it. Next morning his hypothermia-ed corpse was found clinging onto the rope, 3 feet above safe solid ground. So sometimes, we need to listen to God's voice, and no matter how much sense it makes or does not make, we need to just obey His voice, and have faith that it is right.

Since the above, I have prayed to God or sometimes not, when I am feeling sorrowful and down. I think I have forgotten myself, perhaps looking in the wrong directions, or looking for the wrong sorts of signs. I am looking for clear and obvious answers. And have encountered...none. But does this mean that the Lord God has abandoned me? No. He is ever loving and faithful. I have misinterpreted His methods of guidance. The answer would not be in the form of a blinding light striking me in the middle of the night, with a voice telling me loud and stern and in an unmistakably authoritative and clear voice "TAKE THIS ROAD". Because, when I think about it, He HAS been answering my prayers! He has! Its jus that I never realized so.

From the first paragraph above, remember I said I have been receiving SMSes, from a friend's uncle? I just realized that these SMSes have always struck me when I am down and sorrowful. Just when I need Him and his guidance. Not when I am happy and contented. And they have always directly applied to that particular circumstance. Been caught up in emotional turmoil and events the last few weeks, and though I think I have tried to be selfless and considering towards others, I think I need to stand up, grow up, be mature, and be a bigger man, and not let MY emotional issues crap the hell out of everyone and everything.

The gf has her life, her issues, her difficulties to sort out. If I truly loved her, I would not allow my stupid issues to bog us down, I would not add to her many woes. I would be even kinder, more giving, more selfless, and stop thinking about myself. I have be less self absorbed. For the time being, things in her life are not balanced, and she needs me more than ever, and hence, this is not the time to think of me, but to be there for her. This is the time for her her her. To be there for her. My gosh, how could I have been so blind and self absorbed?

Received another SMS today:

Serving Hearts Philippians 2:3-7
Holy Spirit, work in me a desire to please You rather than impress people. Forgive me for my selfishness and for focusing on my life, my needs and problems. Help me to care more about others and their needs and to have a servant's heart so that You can do Your work through me.

And I shall follow it, and perhaps, this will do more for her and for our relationship than anything else.

Sze Ern

Sze Ern is the name of my niece. She is very very cute. I have not seen her for a year. BUT she is arriving in an hour or so!!! OMG! I get to hug her again! Get to kiss her and smell her again! She is v cute. And she smells so nice. And her skin is so soft. And she can now call me. OMG. I can't wait.


I am going to be the bestest uncle ever ever.




Sze Ern...!

Girls & Safety

It worries me to death that so many girls here in KL are living so dangerously. When I say dangerously, I don't just mean driving fast. I mean in the precautions they take to ensure their own safety. With the out of control crime rate and the stories of people breaking into houses and harming their female occupants, or kidnappings, or car jackings etc etc, it worries me sick when I think of my loved ones.

Maybe it is my super paranoid mum who instilled all these thoughts and precautionary measures in my head.

Argh. Hate these FUCKING CRIMINALS.

- - -

Calmed

I'm over it. Emo outbursts are not me.

Had an entertaining and revelatory chat with 2 'elder sisters', great ppl and colleagues, about life and relationships, from the perspective of 2 girls who are around 30 years old.

Settled some questions and doubts and issues.

Why does everyone keep telling me that I am very young, and that a 25 year old guy is very young? I don't feel so. I want to get married! Need the cash and financial stability first though.

I think I am feeling more sure of myself. Just got to stop worrying too much about other people and just focus more on me.

Dept dinner tonight...better quickly wrap up my work and then go.

Foolish me. Oh, foolish me.

Feeling really REALLY really stupid and in doubt. But it is my own fault. Nobody pushed me or did or said anything to make me do what I did.

I thought I saw something. Thought I was right. Thought I was oh so right. Thought this was different, thought this was special. Thought this was going to be IT. Thought we were on the same page. Thought this was just the usual teething problems that at this phase you tend to go through but would quickly iron itself out. Thought I was doing the right thing. This after all is what I want. Thought it was the same.

But received shocking shocking revelations.

You thought this is IT, you think hey I have found the right person, the person who finally makes it worth changing and revamping yourself for, who makes it all worthwhile. Who makes me want to be different. Who inspires me to be everything I know I can be, and for her. Then you build around her, your dreams, you make this relationship the foundation of the rest of your life. Everything from this moment on you build for her and you, for us. You trusted her, you frickin idiot. You should have trusted in God instead. He was right. Build around Him, and HE will never let you down. WE were going to be one entity, and this was the beginning moments of the rest of our lives together.

Absolutely hurting right now, shall need a bit of effort to recover from this.

But can't blame nobody but me.

Nobody forced me. Perhaps I wanted it so bad, was so happy that it came true, that I chose to..see it this way. Hm.

Anyway. We walk, we run, we stumble, we fall, we rise up, we walk, we jog, we run, we see the same pothole that tripped us. This time, we aren't going to fall for it again.

My astrology reading

Firstly, let me write this disclaimer: People love believing and hearing good stuff about themselves, e.g. in horoscopes, astrology guides, etc. But I stumbled across this y'day and I thought it brilliantly described me. Exactly how I see myself. Here goes...the astrology reading is in normal font, and where/what I choose to comment, my comments are italicized.

Beneath a controlled, cool exterior beats the heart of the deeply intense Scorpion. Passionate, penetrating, and determined, this sign will probe until they reach the truth. The Scorpion may not speak volumes or show their emotions readily, yet rest assured there's an enormous amount of activity happening beneath the surface. Excellent leaders, the Scorpion is always aware. When it comes to resourcefulness, this sign comes out ahead.

Why, thank you! How true. On the surface, most of the time, unless I am really bothered, I try not to show it, and only people really close to me would be able to read my facial expressions to gauge my moods. I struggle to show emotion or to speak about it, but for the right reasons, I will strive to do so. Oftentimes my brain is running rapidly.

Friends and Family

Sincerity and truth are strong components of the Scorpion's friends. It can take some time before really close bonds are formed, but once done, the Scorpion will remain dedicated and loyal. Witty and intellectual, they prefer companions who are humorous and easygoing. Full of surprises, this sign will give you the shirt off their backs if that's what you need; yet, once they are crossed, there's no turning back. They feel deeply, and once hurt, it can be impossible to turn things around. Commitment to family is strong and consistent with the Scorpion. They are exceptionally helpful in managing affairs, and they are excellent advocates when one is needed.

Sincerity and truth! Priceless indeed and no amount of $ can ever earn these 2 intangibles. Hence I only have my 9 scholars circle of fship and trust and thats enough for me. I will do anything (almost) for them. Humor and easygoing - that describes my fships to a T! And haha, true enough, I feel deeply (ew how pansy of me) and find it tough to deal with hurt. Family commitment - goes without saying.

Career and Money

"I desire" is the key phrase for the Scorpion. They are fantastic at managing, solving, or creating. Once the Scorpion sets their sights on a goal, there's no deterring this sign. Tasks that require a scientific, penetrating approach are always best done by the Scorpion, as they will delve deeply into the materials they have. Their ability to focus, coupled with determination, makes for strong management skills. They're not ones to worry about making friends on the job scene; rather, they prefer to see the task accomplished well.

Ahh...can I write this on my CV? As I always tell my other half, once I target a duck, that duck is a dead ringer, sitting or otherwise. And as my colleagues will attest, I care more for settling the task than to make friends. Hear ye hear ye Mr 'Friend'.

Pursuing such careers as a scientist, doctor, investigator, navigator, detective, researcher, police officer, business manager, and psychologist all suit the mighty Scorpion. Respect is an essential aspect of working for this sign. They need to respect their coworkers, while also feeling a sense of being respected by others.

The importance and value of respect for one's bosses and colleagues can never ever be overstated. Most of the above jobs sound attractive, but the most attractive 2 words are 'mighty Scorpion'. =)

Disciplined enough to stick to a budget and unafraid of working as hard and as long as it takes puts the Scorpion in a good financial position. Many are fortunate and inherit money. Whatever the case - and regardless of the balance - they are great managers of their dollars and are not apt to overspend at all. Money means security and a sense of control, which is important to the Scorpion. Therefore, they're going to hang onto the majority of the cash, making decisions carefully before turning any of it over.

I'm of age. Watch me bring to life the above, and money does mean a sense of security and in control.

Love and Sex

This is the strongest of the sexualities in the zodiac. Incredibly passionate, the Scorpion takes intimacy seriously. Partners need to be intelligent and honest. Much of the foreplay for this sign happens long before the bedroom through conversation and observation. Once in love, they are devoted and loyal to the death. But relationships can take some time. The Scorpion needs to build trust and respect for a potential mate slowly and thoroughly.

Ah ha! My fav part. =) '..takes intimacy seriously' . Definitely. 'Passionate'. Very. 'Partners need to be intelligent and honest'. Uncompromisably. See that part about foreplay? Spot on. 'Once in love, loyal and devoted to death'. YEP, Only 1 lover for me.

SCORPIO TIDBITS

Scorpio Birthdays
October 23 - November 21

Ooh I am right smack in the middle. I hence must be one true blue Scorpio to the hilt.

Health

Each sign has a part of the anatomy attached to it, making this the area of the body that is most sensitive to stimulation. The anatomical areas for Scorpio are the genitals, bladder, rectum, and the reproductive organs.

Gosh, not only does this explain why I am so horny, but it also tells me to always use protection, considering my virility. Haha! I want sons.

Ruling Planet

The ruling planet for Scorpio is Pluto. Traditionally, this planet rules that which is hidden from view. It also represents conception, birth and death, slow growth, generation, regeneration, unpopular causes, anonymity, phobias, and the exposition of secrets.

Deep.

Colors

The colors of choice for Scorpio are dark red to maroon.

Blood. Mmm.

Gemstone

Scorpio's star stone is the opal.

Hey thats the name of the condo I would like to buy.

Lucky Numbers

Scorpio's lucky numbers are 2, 7, and 9.

I will marry my 2nd gf, when I am 27, and she is 29, and my b'day is on the 9th. Furthermore, We get together 2 years after meeting, in the year 2007, and marry in 2009. Someone, please play JT's 'Signs'.

Compatibility

Scorpions are most compatible with Pisces and Cancer.

A scorpion, a fish, and a crab. Enough seafood alredi! So much iron and zinc, no wonder so virile. Cholesterol too.

Opposite Sign

The opposite sign of Scorpio is Taurus.

ah.

The Perfect Gift

The best gifts for a Scorpio are sentimental choices, clothing (especially something sexy), and non-fiction books.

Correct. Not lingerie. A silky nighttie that ends mid thighs is just about right.

Likes

Truth, facts, flirtation, long-time friends

True, and let me clarify, the flirtation is great only if its with the gf and wife. You know, the day-long innuendoes that leads me to cant concentrate at work and cant wait to get home and her into my arms.

Dislikes

The superficial, flattery, shallow people, being taken advantage of

100% hammer on the nail.

House

Natural sign of the Eighth House. This house focuses on sex, taxes, death and rebirth, a partner's resources, inheritance, and regeneration.

No wonder I like the number 8. And no wonder I am dirty minded, just blogged about death, want to have many kids, want to earn more than my spouse, inherited something from my mum, and am habitually engaged in activities that make me assess and improve myself. [Stretching it, no?]

Famous Scorpios

Carl Sagan, Jodie Foster, Indira Gandhi, Prince Charles and Grace Kelly

Watch this space. In 60 years, my name will be there too.

Romancing the ..colleague

Office romances.

I've always had a principle that one should never be dating a colleague. #1 it accelerates everything to saturation point if you sleep together, drive together, live together, eat together, and now, work together. Nobody can be with another person 24/7. Practically the only time you are separated is while asleep (not really since you're lying side by side), or using the toilet. #2 it is awkward for me to have a professional rship with one whom I share my personal life with.

What if there are personal life disputes? How to not let it carry over to work, and vice versa? I set v high and demand similar standards from myself and others ard me. What if either party fails to meet the professional demands of the other? I'd hate for my spouse to think I am incompetent. #3, in the event of a sour ending, how to maintain cordial relationships etc?

Whilst heavily in the midst and thick of several workplace romances swirling around me, I shall amend my principle. It is ok to work in the same company if both are in separate depts and barely see each other. Such as the above 3 conditions are not true, then it is ok. Heck, it is sort of good because we both can talk about the same stuff/people/issues and totally relate to each other, whilst avoiding the above 3 scenarios. And I can fetch her to and from work. Good.

Death of an icon

Lim Goh Tong is dead. A Malaysian icon, a name synonymous with the very definition of successful entrepreneurship.

Moment of silence as a mark of respect.

The man solely responsible for conceptualizing, creating and actualizing Genting Highlands & the Genting Group. A man who started off penniless, with no education and who was armed only with his wit, business acumen and work ethic. He also must have had a lot of balls.

This is the end of an era, a man who was 90 years old, who went through it all and saw it all, who rubbed shoulders with all the M'sian Prime Ministers, who contributed to our tourism industry, who was there when the Japanese attacked, when the Brits left us to die, when Chin Peng roamed the highlands that Genting was a part of, who rubbed shoulders with the likes of Boon Siew, the founders of numerous local banks, the Kuoks...

Times have changed. Conditions are not the same as they were, not as ripe for creating the modern day equivalent. Entrepreneurs are becoming scarcer and scarcer, as people increasingly opt for 'safe' careers. Will we ever see again another such person?

Personally, I am just grateful that he created Genting, for whatever it may be now, however the weather may be, back in those days as a little boy, going there with the family was a wonderful and cold experience that created many fond and long lasting familial bonds and memories.

Reading about his body lying in the coffin while his friends and family went to pay their last respects just served to drive into me human mortality. For once there was Lim Goh Tong, the man, the spark, and people shook his hand, touched him, talked to him, heard his voice, played mahjong with him, and now there he lies in that coffin. Forever extinguished, and what seemed so real only yesterday, when one could hear the voice and watch the limbs move on their own accord, is now something so... unreal. I can't even begin to understand what I am trying to say, hence I am not doing a v good job saying it. Just like that a human, a man, is now a corpse. Look to your left and right. See that person there? One moment, you hear the person moving around, speaking, coughing, typing, doing things of their own accord.

Stand up, stab the person's throat 10 times with a sharp knife, and stand back and watch. The person is now dead. Where once there was human life, there is now a corpse.

On an aside, ever wondered about how come the normal insignificant things in life such as hair, nails, tongue, become suddenly very spooky in death? E.g. "When they opened the coffin after 10 years, they found the hair & nails had grown longer." Or. .."..when they fished her out of the river, her tongue was hanging out, and had become twice as long and twice as thick".

Really ramblings

I had so many things swirling around my head, banging around my skull, begging dying and jostling to be first in line down the slide of veins & nerves that connect to my fingers in order to be first to be typed out...

Unfortunately, as with 80% of the other times, once I sit here and actually type.. I've forgotten em all.

Luckily, a couple of issues stuck.

I think my body is trying to tell me something.

Seems like I am never 'full' these days! I am perpetually eating/wanting to eat/able and ready to eat and I never feel full. Whats the matter?

Is it a reaction to emotional stress?

I don't know. It's just like this huge insatiable monster that needs to constantly be fed fed fed. Like a bottomless black hole I am. I never feel full.

I guess it might be a mixture of under eating the past 1 month, combined with the emo stress. Nevermind...since I am hungry, since I am dropping weight and muscle like crazy, I might as well eat eat eat.

Moving on...

My car is a dodgy piece of metal. It consumes petrol like a minister takes bribes, which is to say, unsatiably, and has no pickup power or speed, the tyres are dodgy and the gearbox is cranky. All in all, I'd gladly trade it in for a LeRun with Shimano 6 speed m-bike with 26" alloy rims and front/back suspensions. At any rate, the idea of purchasing a car has been popping in and out of my mind with increasing regularity nowadays and is becoming more n more difficult to push away. Financial prudence wise, it's either the Vios or City. But after driving the Camry in Melbourne (rented car, sadly) I am totally sold on it. Totally. I want it! But it being a rather large car, I also harbour secret dreams of buying a Civic. Looks nice, powerful, fast. I've driven each of the above cars b4 and frankly, I'm happy with either the Camry or Civic.

But, if I boiled it down...right back to my last year in Melb.. the car I really had set my sights on, and would have purchased had I gotten an offer earlier, is the...de de de den...[drumroll please because it's not often I obsess about cars]..Mazda 6!

Why does very good things in life cost an arm and a leg? Luckily the very best things in life are still free, such as the gf's affection (not really!) . *pat* *pat*.

Please... give me a windfall...

Envy those lucky bastards who drive powerful cars courtesy of richie rich parents. But what the hell, my mum bought me a condo, for which I am eternally grateful, so least I can do is buy my own friggin car. But let it be known, I want a good car not for image purposes, but mostly for the driving experience and if you drove my current car around a bit, you'd understand what I mean, you bastards who take for granted your powerful cars you.

$$$

We recently announced a dip in quarterly earnings. But on the good side, after a regional meeting, we have been declared as having the best factory in Asia, and are third in the world.
Wow! Thats great, to be a part of something like that. Knowing that part of that comes from an assessment based on a criteria that includes quality and costs, and knowing that I contributed tangibly to that, is a great feeling.

The reason I can wake up and not feel too shitty about this job is because the people, the colleagues, are great. Another thing is that the distance from home is fine. One reason why I left my old job for this is that in this job, I get to see touch feel experience n all that, the stuff I am producing, whereas back in EY, it was just a matter of producing a service, and that wasn't quite tangible or solid. Just gobbledegook on a laptop in some report. It fills me with pride to go around airports and see our products there, and seeing products that I was a part of.

However, begininng to think of bigger picture. There's so many other considerations. There's the fact that the pay isn't so hot. I guess 75th percentile is not too bad, but when I consider the fact that the gf is so smart intelligent and capable and poised to earn more and more, I cannot just rest on my laurels and happily allow her to earn more and more than me. Manly pride and ego yea yea.

Hmmm....? Money is really coming to the fore...how to make more of it... and use less of it... haha...lots of ideas coming my way and bouncing around. But first and foremost, lets concentrate on the current job eh?

Had lunch at Old Town Kopitiam. These such franchises are sprouting up all over town. Hence, I've got a great idea. First of all, think of something well, a concept store, and set it up. Make it really good. Like Rotiboy, Secret Recipe, Old Town Kopitiam...then, set up a chain...then sell the whole frickin franchise. See! Guaranteed money. Now, all I got to do is ... come out with the idea.

What sells?

Of panties and hair wax

Girls really spend a lot of money.

See, my entire regime of healthcare involves:

- a shampoo, any brand, cheap, anti dandruff. main criteria: near to cashier
- soap: any bar of soap
- 1 face wash
- 1 hair wax
- 1 toothbrush
- 1 toothpaste
- 1 listerine

Settled!

Girls:

- a shampoo
- a conditioner
- a bodysoap
- some body milk or moisturizer or some shit
- face wash
- face toner
- face moisturizer
- toothbrush
- toothpaste
- exfoliator for (1) body (2) face
- body moisturizer
- lip gloss
- lipstick
- assortment of various creams n milks n body butters

WTF?!!!

My clothing regime consists of:

- shirt
- boxers
- trousers
- belt
- socks
- shoes

Very functional.

- some lacey spaghetti strap top with super low neckline
- some cardigan on top buttoned at cleavage area
- some work jacket
- some work skirt
- stockings
- high heels
- bra
- panties

- pantyliner, breastliner
- something to tie the hair
- some pieces of dangly strings n odds n ends hanging around or looped around the waist masquerading as a belt

WTF?!?!

I have underwear that is the kind that you find a huge truckload of it on some metal rack, and you can buy 3 for RM10. Girls must buy bras that are like RM100 each, panties that are just as expensive, and on top of that, they just cant get enough of these things... must keep buying a lot a lot, and the expensive ones too, and the funniest part is, NO ONE EVER SEES this. omg...just kill me.

I guess some say its the comfort..some say its the sexiness...overall I guess what matters is that it makes the girl feel a certain way. And thats worth the price they are paying for the item.

Grey

there is more to life, much more to life, than sitting around bitching about singlehood, or pretending to be nonplussed about one's singlehood when in fact one is. there is more to life than sitting around chugging beer for RMxx a pop and letting it expand your bloated stomach and get you all red and intoxicated. but the worst thing is to allow yourself to lose control and drink to the point of excess where your body literally breaks down and the next step is to go to the hospital for a liver detox. to allow oneself to lose ctrl and drink til the point where 1 is completely switched off and acts in a disgraceful manner, throwing items, swearing, puking and fainting, speaks volumes about one's character. if you have no understanding of your physique, how can you understand your mental and emotional self? it is immaturity, and all i can do is feel a mixture of pity and disdain for one so. call me harsh and call ME immature and watnot, but if ppl can b harsh to me in the spirit of not compromising THEIR personal standards and expectations, i reckon i am hence entitled to my own opinion.

moving on, now that the spite has been vented.

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feel like im living in a cloud of depression. not a major one mind u, but a slight dampening of the spirits nonetheless. when i compare how we were just a few months ago to now, i feel like an age, an eternity has elapsed. its just so sad. i know im making the right decision, i know this is what i want, and i know i am trying to actualize our previously articulated shared dreams. i am actively trying to do so. but how do i convince her i am doing likewise? how come she has so many doubts and sadness and fears? wish i could soothe her n hug n kiss n rub it all away.

i love her, i still do, despite regardless of it all. and all i want is for things to get back on track. i want to make things right.

ok enough. HENCEFORTH all thoughts pertaining to rships of such nature will be directed to the person f2f in real life. communication should be done that way, thats the only medium. even venting like this is not good. i shud vent to her.

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The Return

the japanese have invented a realistic replacement for shark cartilage. what this essentially means is that the sharks fin industry can now have a viable alternative instead of real sharks fins. what this means is that potentially, the current savage practice of stripping a shark of its fins and flinging it back into the seas (to drown and die and be at the bleeding mercy of other sharks) could be curbed dramatically. with the decrease of such acts tantamounting to massacre, the shark population have hope.

of course there is the repercussory effects on the oceanic food chain, since sharks sit second on the predator list right below Humans.

on an indirectly related note, we are overfishing, the seas are becoming too gleaned of fish. with the current rapidly dwindling fish supplies and human population explosions, we are soon going to find ourselves running out of fish. trawlers strain through the seas, trapping turtles and dolphins and watnot, and tossing back numerous other specimens not commercially rewarding. we are wreaking havoc on oceanic ecosystems. does this not worry the world?

you hear of deserts encroaching upon human settlements. the sinai and arabian deserts, as examples, supposedly are expanding at a rate of...something metres per year. sea levels are rising. icebergs are melting. ozone holes are widening. arable land is rapidly decreasing. fresh water supplies are drecreasing. air is being increasingly populated. and now even cow farts are threatening to engulf us in an even more potent greenhouse effect. wtf?! and the human population is exploding.

if we REALLY wanted to save the world, the very first step is to give lots and lots of free condoms to india, bangladesh, brazil, etc. these guys are screwing like rabbits, producing vast numbers of humans whose contributions to the world do not justify their consumption of lots of resources. we cannot factor in China because China's rate of population increase per couple is not so dramatic. nationally of course they are expanding fast but thats due to their huge base.

mind meandering back to the seas...and now fish are containing toxically high levels of arsenic and mercury and pregnant women are discouraged from eating too much fish. blood cockles give hepatitis.
and to be even more dramatic.. there is Sars..Aids..Jesus..will we see your return this generation?

No big deal just deal with it

i am so tired.

physically worn out and not replenished because i havent had my regular dosage of sports. then on monday went for a full court game and did lots of running and ended up got slightly sore thighs. and thats fine, not so bad. i like that feeling.

emotionally slightly worn out and spent over recent tumultuous and turmoil filled times. its a testing time, but i know what i want to be, and i know where i am, and i know what i have to do to get to where i want to be so that i can be all that i want to be for her. and she deserves nothing less. i've just got to do it. bit by bit day by day, its a continuous improvement initiative which i hope she can gradually feel.

mentally fatigued with the load of BS coming my way at work. of course, i know what i got to do, i know how to do it, and its jus a matter of doing it. but its a task almost impossible. normal handovers are conducted over a period of 2 months with full handholding and easing into of the new role. and after the handover, more often than not, the old guy is still around for the new guy to refer to. but i've got approx 2 weeks, and after that the old guy is gone and the expectation is that i will slide into his role and outperform him. great! and on top of that, theres the current stuff which i originally had til end nov to do which i have to finish by mid oct. great!! ok, nvm, emotional distractive white noise aside, what has got to b done will be done. end of story.

spiritually, embarking on a journey towards a faith i alwiz thought would never claim me as one of its ardent adherents. its been pleasing, also a time of self discovery. i just need to take my own time in order to ensure sustainability, and that things are done the right way and for the right reasons.

on top of it all, while applying for a credit card, received a phone call from the background credit checkers. apparently my name is being used for a home loan!? wtf? i alredi have a house, and have never applied for any card or loan insofar of my life. so what gives?

King Midas

You know the MIDAS story - the King with the Midas touch? Everything he touched turned to gold. I suspect I have the same touch but on the opposite extreme. Everything I touch...turns to copper.
Got to make this work because I want it to work!!!

Stress

They say younger guys are eager to please, whereas older guys are not.

Hmm - something to chew on.

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Have been trying to handle stress and other affairs in a more mature and less harmful to self manner. That means no smoking. Cigars (which is something I recently started to appreciate, but all too soon, have to stop ingesting) are also a no go, according to the girlfriend. Rats! Thought I could get away with that.

Part of being mature, to me, means being able to calmly, rationally and effectively handle stress and various other issues instead of getting all excited or resorting to avenues such as smoking. Hence the desire to get involved in sporting activities, as it is only in that arena that my mind can truly block everything out and focus on the moment, on the sporting situation and reactions. It allows me to relax, calm down, and after the game, and focus on the issues on hand.

What are the issues bugging me anyway?

First of all, relationships wise I really need to buckle down, grow up and act like the 25 year old man I am soon going to be. I am constantly reminded of how much I need to grow and how youthful I am. Ok. So far, the girlfriend has been incredibly patient and tolerant, and it is only fair that I do right by her. The acid test is that I want to do it because it is the right way to think, not because I should. When it seems like she is withdrawing, should I see it as her withdrawing, or should I learn to accept that this is part of a woman’s moods or reactions to my behaviour? And it seems like my ability to articulate myself has been crushed by a rock of immense proportions, leading me to leave impressions that do not necessarily truly reflect the entire and true picture of me accurately.

Then, career wise things are in the midst of severe upheaval which I have been patiently trying to work out. First of all, with the sudden news of my pushed forward confirmation and ascension to an executive role, my current MT programme suddenly needs to be dramatically accelerated. With a sudden decrease in time available to do so, things are a rush, and are stressful as it is. Moreover, stepping into the new role has brought with it its own set of emotional and technical reactions. I have not had much time to deal with the emotional – as it is, the technical preparations I am going through in order to prepare me to take on the job confidently is already absorbing plenty of resources. This is a serious job which has immense repercussions on the company’s performance in the market, and the associated stress and burdens are hyper exacerbated by the fact that I have had so little training and preparation for it. Everyone has been pulling me aside telling me they expect all sorts of great things for me and all I keep hearing are steep learning curve, high expectations, unprecedented scrutiny etc.

OK, in the face of crisis (this hardly qualifies as one does it?) lies the greatest opportunity. Such times are the best way to test a man’s mettle. I think it was Churchill who said that how a man reacts in times of toughness best reflects what kind of a man that is. Well said. He also said to a group of university students, no matter what you are facing in life, never give up.

Using that philosophy, I shall move onto the next post…

Commitment

Let us talk about giving up and commitment.

People who do not make that step to commit to each other will consider as an option giving up when their relationship, whatever relationship that might be, runs onto the rocks. They would think lets take whatever possession on this sinking ship is mine, grab a lifeboat, jump overboard, and row for shore.

That is giving up. But it is forgivable, since no commitment was made. It might be a waste, but it is ok.

People who do commit do not shun or scare away from what might unfold. Once they decide to commit, when the ship runs on the rocks, they do not consider as an option giving up the relationship. They identify the ways to resolve the issue, and together, move the ship off the rocks, patch the holes, and continue on their way.

That is commitment. The promise to each other to stay together and accept each other, whatever surprises might be thrown their way, provided neither party wrongs the other party unacceptably morally.

However, if the water is coming in too fast and the ship is sinking too fast regardless, they HAVE to consider the possibility that perhaps the holes are too big, cannot be patched and to stay on trying to patch the rapidly incoming water is folly that will doom them both and increase their chances of doom the longer they stay.

If they decide to bail out and give up on the ship (relationship, pun unintended), then when is it giving up, and when is it wisely recognizing signs that shows that it really is a doomed exercise destined for failure?

Does commitment mean staying on and bailing and fighting until the ship is in the water and there is confirmedly no hope and the water is up to their chins, or is that foolishness? When is it not foolish to consider or to actually bail out then?

Bottom line: a commitment is a commitment

Past Present

I’ve been told I use past situations and past experiences with people too much in how I assess new situations and people. And since situations and people are different, hence my assessments and their conclusions will be wrong.

But isn’t that the basis of learning from the past?

Isn’t that how we all move forward and consider current/future situations, based on the inherently accumulated knowledge and experiences we pick up or are exposed to along the way?

I think though that I must have misunderstood.

Upcoming GE

There has been lots of thoughts swirling around my mind recently. Some serious, some personal, some downright puerile (thanks Jo, for reminding me of the existence of this word).

Today, I want to talk about something serious. The upcoming elections.

Lets break it down to the simplest possible dissection. In Malaysia, the reality is that politics is alwiz going to be broken down racially. This is how the cake is going to be cut regardless of how you look at it, how you wish it, so you might as well accept that this is the way the cookie crumbles and hence formulate the best possible action. The culture, fears, stigmas, stereotypes, perceptions, are too deeply ingrained over 50 years.

The Indians will alwiz vote MIC. Why? Seldom will there be an Indian who votes Opposition. They may verbalize that they do, but come time to cast their ballot, its Semivalue all over again. Indians can roughly be broken down into 3 types. The rich (who will always vote MIC because it is due to the cronyism, nepotism and contacts/under table handout system that they got rich), the middle class and the lower classes (who are so poor that any form of handout or monetary gift can buy their votes; they are so poor and live hand to mouth that they are merely concerned with survival, and whoever can assist financially will be their hero; ideals of democracy and due process of law is not within their sphere of concern). Come time for elections, MIC, with generous handouts (to buy votes) given by big brother (UMNO la, who else), will go to Indian dominated areas, usually rural or the most dumpy derelict areas, and pave some roads, offer RM200 cash, etc, some middling sum, and this is usually sufficient to guarantee an MIC vote. The latest tactic is to provide instant ICs and hence legitimacy to the 20,000 Indians currently dispersed around various estates around the country who have no ICs, and in return, get an MIC vote. Yes, this is how Semi Value secures and buys his votes. These 2 demographics are quite securely MIC. Opposition parties without the budgets required to buy the poor voters' votes can thus forget about MIC. This leaves the middle class. Middle class voters are usually apathetic, or fence sitters who rely on themselves (being professionals or SMEs), or more in tune with issues like justice, democracy, transparency, corruption etc.

The Chinese voters can be roughly categorized into 4 kinds as well. Those who are steadfastedly pro MCA/BN due to cronyism/nepotism, those who are cowardly, those who are emotional, and those who are logical/apathetic. The first type is a MCA/BN goner, well in their back pockets, so screw them. The cowardly will choose MCA/BN again because to them, if they make RM10, and they give RM4 as under counter money, and only keep RM6, it is still RM6. That is all they care about, that they still have their RM6, and screw the injustices, corruption, etc because it isn't affecting them, and, they rather keep that RM6 then to vote another party and risk losing that RM6 even though potentially they could make RM8. The emotional will always choose DAP because it is ingrained in them that DAP is pro Chinese and everything else will make their life more miserable. Hence, we need to appeal to those who are logical/apathetic.

The Malay voters are very simple: Apathetic, BN or religious zealots. That about covers it all. Those who are lazy/incompetent/selfish/shameless/greedy will want to retain what is giving them such a wonderful, comfortable, easy life hence BN, those who are religious zealots and will follow whichever party guarantees the way to Islamic heaven (PAS voters, you may stand), and the rest are just apathetic who see no reason to change status quo.

Regardless of what the Opposition does, REGARDLESS, the BN will win again. Regardless. That is a given that goes without saying. Look at Ijok and Machap. The Election Commission (EC) works for the BN, the media is part of BN's well oiled and well financed population controlling (the modern day Big Brother of Orwell's 1984) machinery, there are phantom voters, bought votes, specially designed voting system i.e. split the votes via location and the various opposition parties that can be voted for in different areas etc. We can never win. The Malay population is too large, the Chinese upper class and the Indian upper/lower class will all vote BN.

So why should we bother?

Because ladies and gentlemen, dissent is in the air. Petrol prices are rising, toll prices are rising, our corruption index is rising, our FDI inflows are weak, our FDI outflows are super strong, our currency has devalued dramatically (and shows no signs of being readjusted for fears of affecting our exports which can only compete on price since we have such a bad quality culture), justice transparency and democracy is all but a myth, racial tensions are rising, pollies have their hands in every pot, etc etc the list goes on. Its a joke! This is an insult to our intelligence and dignity, it makes a mockery out of you and me.

People are starting to be aware. Change is imminent. Change is in the air. People are demanding for it. This is our chance to deny them that 2/3 majority in Parliament. And THAT is what we should gun for, a very realistic goal. Don't bother defeating BN. Aim small. First, deny them that 2/3. Every single day, our rights and privileges are being gradually eroded as the Constitution keeps changing and changing not in favor of us. The day Mahathir emasculated the Rulers by removing their powers to affect the Constitution and left us in Parliament's hands, this whole debacle started. The only way to stop this is to deny them that 2/3.

So how do we gain the votes to swing it this way? First of all, we can identify acros the spectrum thatr the only targettable demographic are the middle class Indians and Chinese, and everyone else who is logical, practical and apathetic. How do we make the non voters vote Opposition and the non Opposition voters of the above categories to vote Opposition?

2 pronged approach.

1 - Get the apathetic to vote. Not quite sure how, this one must think some more. But once they decide to vote...who to vote for?

2 - We ALL already know the current party sucks. But we need to have a very viable alternative. The Opposition cannot just attack the current govt and then say hence vote us. The Opposition is very disunited. There are no practical policies offered, no practical solutions to the nation's woes. No tangible economic policy, foreign policy, tax policy etc. Granted, it is hard to get their message across on the Govt's well polished anti Opposition media machinery. But the reason why more people are NOT voting Opposition is because they are not sold that the Opposition reallly can offer something better.

Moving on, either Malaysia is screwed because we really do not have a viable Opposition with good sound policies that can stand on their own merit, or, the Opposition if it does have those policies and is not merely a Govt watchdog, then it should do a better job of articulating and disseminating information regarding these policies. With that in place, more rational and sound minded indivs will vote for them, fence sitters will switch, and the apathetic will have someone worthwhile to vote for.

Imperfections

I have come to fully accept the reality and fact that I am very immature, unreliable, irresponsible, disappointing and a bucketful of potential unrealized.

There is so much about myself I need to change, grow and improve. Realization is step one. Acceptance is step 2. Knowing what needs to be done and why is step 3. Wanting to do it is step 4. Doing it is step 5. Sustaining it is Step 6. Step 6 onwards is an ongoing process.I have just finished step 4 and am about to embark on Step 5.

Question.

If one has the greatest girl in the world, and one realizes one is deeply flawed, does one:

a) Sort himself out first to be fair to the girl, THEN, have a rship with her? To mitigate the risk that she might end up with some guy who is deeply flawed hoping he will change, and he never changes. Better he makes himself good, then he goes with her, hence she is assured that she is not getting involved with someone who needs a lot of work.

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b) Gets with her for fear that by the time he is ready, she'd be snapped up. Then hope to change and improve along the way. This requires the girl to be patient, loving, sacrificial, and placing her trust & time in him. Isn't this selfish of him though? And greedy? And what if deep inside he is fearful he might never be all that? And then let her down?

The feeling of letting down and disappointing someone who trusted you and had hopes for you is immeasurably sad. My choice is B. Yes, I am selfish and greedy. But I do not want to let anyone else down. Once I make this step, everything, every ounce and atom of my existence, will be thrown into actualizing this.

Its alwiz best to naturally be so perfect. But if one is not, the next step is one who develops himself to be such. Is this second scenario any less ideal though? That he started out as a leopard, can we expect him to change his spots? Will there alwiz be an underlying layer of mistrust, doubt, suspicion by all parties involved that this is a charade, an act, borne out of a desire to make good, rather than an actual manifestation of his actual goodness.

Tell you what. Don't think so much. Just be 100% sincere, take that initiative, and really really want and try to be good, be ALL THAT. Alwiz be v v upfront with the girl, let her be aware of all this, and let her decide for herself what she wants, whether she is willing to take that risk and wait, or if time is of essence, does she want to pull out and move elsewhere. And then go and be fair to her, give it your bestest shot, throw everything at it, and if the outcome is good, its good, and if not, at least everyone involved was aware every step of the way.