Trust & Faith

My friend was telling me the other day how his girlfriend goes through his phone and checks his messages and calls. And then, another friend was saying how he does that to his girlfriend. Both incidents got me thinking. Well, the underlying reason why the above 2 actions occur is because of a lack of trust.

That’s a fundamental pillar and necessity right there that is lacking in their relationships. Without trust, then really, the relationship is doomed. Trust must be earned right from the start, and once the trust is there, there should be no longer doubts. And until the trust is established, they shouldn’t have gotten together. Coz if you got together before the trust is established, then lets say something happens that violates that trust then you are setting yourself up for failure. So you have to be able to lay all your bets on this person before you can enter a relationship. Now, once you are in, you shouldn’t be holding back anymore.

This brings me to prenuptials. Prenuptials totally spoil and kill off relationships. The trust is gone right there from the start. The moment you accept the possibility of divorce, you accept the probability that she might relieve you of your assets unreasonably then the trust isn’t there.

I guess it is hard for rich people in these trust issues; is she after the money or the man?

But as far as I am concerned, maybe I am naïve, but when you enter into a relationship, you should have already thought it over and over properly. Hence, the possibility of a break up should never even exist. It should be a one way street with NO options and possible escape clauses. If you need one, you shouldn’t be embarking on this journey.